Art by Cahill Wessel
When you judge someone, you leave yourself closed to who that person actually is. You judge their flaws and forget or are blinded to your own. It’s a useful tool for weeding out people you feel aren’t more worthy of your time but denies the other person the opportunity to surprise you. This is where being a judgmental person gets its bad reputation because while all these things may be accurate to the flaws of someone who’s judgmental, it denies the benefits.
What you actually do when you judge someone is you put them in a category or label and this is a quick and efficient way of understanding someone before actually getting to know them (which isn’t necessarily a bad thing). This doesn’t just apply to people, but things as well. Be it your song track list, sport, art, etc. It revolves around your own personal tastes. All of these categories contain good and bad be it a fascist doctrine or a spiritual speech given by Mahatma Gandhi.
It helps to categorize things. You can give it a name so that you don’t end up having to give a detailed explanation every time you want to express an idea. Like calling greenish-blue ultramarine or purplish-red magenta. This applies to people what with the many culture, sub-cultures, fads, religions that we have. A lot of people get offended when you put them under a certain label because they don’t feel like they are the total sum of that label and honestly, they have a right to be. So, although someone may seem as though they fall under a category, you also have to respect that just because you drew a line in the sand saying where the categories are doesn’t mean that they necessarily sit there. Other people take pride in their label which is again, good and bad.
So, although the initial mechanism that makes up the parts of judgmentalism have benefits, taking those judgments too seriously can have you end up with your foot in your mouth or have you become such a person that leaves themselves closed to being surprised.
If I ever had a mantra, it’d be to always find your own personal balance.
So we don’t end up with any confusion here, I’ll openly point out that I don’t have any degrees in philosophy, psychology or really anything. I’m not a master of anything and though zen has helped me gain focus and control over my thoughts I can’t say that I have any special talents regarding anything zen. I’m just a guy who’s told regularly how much he thinks too much and asks too many questions. I like to think that it’s due to this quality of mine that I’ve been able to develop numerous life coping skills. I’ve developed my own system and I figured if people are interested, I’ll clue you in on it. Hence, this blog. So keep reading and I’ll keep writing.